Adopted 'brother'?

I dont know how/why but I never liked anybody, especially females, saying that some male is 'like' their brother. Usually this tactic is adopted to 'ward off' some males who may develop some 'dangerous motives'. To add fuel to fire, some guys take this to heart and really act like brother. I have heard that Sivaji Ganesan used to send gifts to Lata Mangeshkar. With three elder sisters, I am not sure of this 'new brother' relationship. I think that sibling relationship is one that is natural by virtue of their growing up almost under the same roof.

Ideally if the guy is 'sensitive', he will know that his presence is not entirely appreciated, if not solicited. The female can always pass these hints in a subtle manner (do we have to teach them that? ;)). I am reminded of the hard-hitting dialogue in Aval Appadi Thaan, especially because it is the girl who is offended when the guy takes umbrage under 'sister'.

Despite some 'history of misbehavior, misconceptions and misjudgements' in my paternal family, I have never been involved in any sort of 'controversy'. For one, it never crossed my mind to see them other than 'just relative'. I didnt even consider them as 'friend' :o I also dont have the habit of 'gossip'ping or 'backbiting'. If I was told anything directly by them, it never went into 'relayed' or 'retold' to anyone else. It stayed as just 'told'. Maybe I inherited that attribute from my maternal side, especially my uncle in whose house I nearly stayed most of my high school and college days. Maybe that is one reason why I was considered 'safe'. Anyway, my chithi didnt have a son and so I performed the role of 'brother' to her daughter during the engagement yesterday at Chennai. Her groom (rather his sister) was no 'stranger' and 'world is too small a place' was reaffirmed yesterday.