Whom can we be angry with?

My sisters, my friends and some other have often told me that I am angry with too many people and at too many things. I dont think this is true because I believe that I can be angry only with friends or those who we consider 'reasonably close'. I cant be angry with say Sachin Tendulkar or Kamal Hassan or AR Rehman. I can easily ignore such 'personalities'. I often think about the typical 'filmy' question - failure in friendship, love etc. I always think in intangibles, especially in relationships, whether it is friends or siblings or others, 'tangibles' dont play any part and there is nothing called as 'failure'. There can only be 'disappointment's because the person we believed in did not come up with what we expected him/her to come up with. Rather, they didnt behave the way we expect him to behave. In that sense, 'hypocrisy' is almost unacceptable in life, not just in politics. If a person says something and does something altogether different, then 'expectations' are belied. It is strange indeed that people are saying 'hypocrisy' is a way of life.

In another context, I read the same in an article in Literary Review of Hindu. To quote,

One of our MLAs now, who is also a good writer, once made a comment to me, saying, “You write about all these controversial subjects, don’t your family object?” I didn’t expect it from him because he projects himself as a progressive thinker but he is something else in practical, everyday life. When I asked him about it, he said “duality is the way of life”. Of course, life is full of such dualities and contradictions but we try to bridge it, or at least think about it...saying such contradictions are a way of life is an easy, ready-made answer.

When there are disappointments, there is bound to be anger, most often with ourselves. When people belie our expectations, then the anger is at ourselves for having 'high' expectations on people, who cant/wont keep with the same. We do know that the other person cannot do what we expect him/her to do. We fervently hope/expect that the 'intangible' force between us will impel him/her to overcome the 'hurdle' and take the earnest attempt to achieve what we expect to achieve. In our judgement, if the other person is not able to do it, we can be nothing but bitter, maybe at life or most definitely ourselves. Probably the relationship was not all that worth.